For a subject that has quieted down for a while, there is new evidence that those who are “bullied by their peers actually suffer from worse long-term mental health effects than children who are maltreated by adults.” It makes sense to me. Your parents are supposed to be on your back to make you a better person. Your friends, or acquaintances, are supposed to treat you like one of them. When they resort to bullying the bullied kid probably doesn’t understand why his or her coequal is doing this. A study from The Lancet Psychiatry came up with the conclusion and the findings were a surprise. Their scientific discovery showed that since the children spent more time with other kids than their parents, the negative results are more pronounced. Additional results showed kids mistreated by adults were more likely to be bullied. The researchers compare bullying to the victim to being a caged animal with nowhere to escape, with the repetitive nature of the act being the most harmful part. The answer, they say, is to stop it in the schools where most of it originates. If parents suspect bullying, they should talk to their kids immediately, then contact school officials.
You thought bullying was only for kids in school that took advantage of those who either couldn’t or didn’t defend themselves. Not, says Dan Merica, in the CNN article, “Clinton decries outside spending in pricey N.C. Senate race.” The Presidential hopeful said, “Elections come down often to who has got more money, who is pedaling more fear and who turns out.” Well, both sides do it, but Republicans are perfectionists at pedaling fear. And the GOP always seems to get their people out to vote. My wife and I are lifetime progressives and have never missed an election. Another comment, “We teach our kids not to bully and that is all they [dark ads] are doing.” Some think the mid-terms could be a tossup.
Most of us are in no position to judge the reason some kids and adults are bullies. It is said that bullies have an inferiority complex, thus, this is their way to feel superior. I was bullied once by a kid in grammar school who was half my size. I won but learned later that he was from a broken family and had to fight for everything he got. But I do not remember anyone in those days–or even when my kids were in school–resorting to suicide as a result of being bullied. If my kids had done it, they would have been grounded for life. Mark O’Mara, the former attorney for George Zimmerman and a family practice and criminal defense attorney, has tried to get a law passed to outlaw bullying in Florida with no success. He is trying again.
My take is that schools, where a lot of bullying takes place, should be more vigilant in monitoring episodes. When discovered, the parents should be notified at once and told to take measures to prevent it in the future. If the same child is a repeat offender, he or she should be suspended from school and the parents then held accountable. Yes, that would take a law against bullying.
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There is both physical and verbal bullying and the above site, which I urge you to see if you have a problem or are just interested, explains what each is about. It shows the social/relational downside that can humiliate, embarrass and destroy reputations. Boys and girls are both bullies and there is cyber bullying which I will cover at more length later. Every 7 minutes an elementary child is bullied on the playground but the onset is actually between 3 and 4 years of age.
So what have we learned so far? One disturbing fact is that loose guns contribute to the bullying problem in both victims’ retaliation and from those who commit suicide. It seems that guns play a part of most everything that is bad and contribute little to the protection of those who carry them. Also, schools do not understand nor do they take this issue seriously enough. Parents are aware but need to counsel their children more. It is a problem that will not go away.